“If you focus on the hurt, you will continue to suffer. If you focus on the lesson, you will continue to grow.” – Unknown I have literally lived this. For so many years, anytime I thought about the abuse in my past I just felt hurt and angry. And let’s be honest, I had every […]
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To The Man Who Treated Me Less Than Human, Simply put, you were wrong. You were wrong about life and you were wrong about love. I was not lucky to be yours. For the longest time I thought I was the luckiest girl because you chose me. I was so shy and unsure of myself
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“I’m getting by just fine on my own, I don’t need therapy.” “Yeah, some crappy things happened in my past, but they’re in my past. I’m fine.” “It happened so long ago, digging it up will only make things worse.” These are all things I had told myself a million times and I truly believed
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“You understand that what your telling me indicates that this was an abusive relationship, right?” . . . I sat there, running that word over and over in my mind. I didn’t quite know what to make of what my therapist had just told me. Abusive? Really. . ? I knew my ex-boyfriend could be
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After it was over, I felt so awful that I curled up into the fetal position. My body shook as I sobbed uncontrollably. I felt empty. I felt like everything I had ever cared about had just been ripped from me. I hated myself for letting this happen to me. I hated myself for not
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Here’s the truth about having abuse in your past: Simply put, it’s heavy. There are far too many days that feel impossible. Days that I can’t help but break down and cry because I feel like I’m beyond repair. I feel so shattered and screwed up that trying to do anything more than just survives
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Last week I had the incredible opportunity to attend The Haven Retreat, which is put on by The Younique Foundation. It’s specifically for adult women who have experienced childhood sexual abuse. I want to start off by saying that The Younique Foundation did not in any way shape or form ask me to write about
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One night at work, my coworkers and I were sharing crazy stories about our partners/spouses and I shared a very ‘edited’ version of the chip story. (Click here for the full story) They all kinda laughed until I mentioned that he was furious and didn’t talk to me for the rest of the night when
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When I was in the thick of my abusive relationship, what helped me more than anything was the day I became aware. Aware that the way he was treating me wasn’t okay, that it wasn’t justified. I knew that it didn’t feel okay but, like most abuse victims, I had been led to believe that the way he
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Journal Entry: October 12, 2010 I really don’t know if I can take this anymore? I feel like he’s looking for any excuse to be mad at me. Today I’m babysitting and he was going to come help me after he got home from work at 8:30 but I got a call at about 8:15
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